Further wasted time on this project (sorry, but this is an issue that has been reported before on ADC forum) shows that I can get either POM to work again by doing the 11-11 reset in the manual. Then I am good right up until I disconnect, either via the PLC-Disconnect selection, or closing the DMD software. Then it fails to connect again, suggesting it might be old PLC firmware or simply a timeout, and only timeout is shown.
It can't be my program, because I don't even have to put a program in. When I select Disconnect it wants to save, so I give it a filename and save, it wants to save to the PLC, so I let it. Try to connect again, no-go.