The ECOM has no control over what a remote master is doing, but I assume that you do. The backplane transactions are still scan synchronous (done at the bottom of the ladder scan), and the 260 can do 1, 2, or 3 incoming transactions per scan, based on the type of transaction.
The outgoing transactions initiated by the 260 can only handle 1 pending outgoing transaction at a time. These transactions have no affect on the mechanism of the incoming transactions, only from the standpoint of the response buffer (i.e. collisions, but highly unlikely on a non-saturated network, but the chip has built-in collision handling).
Hence, I would make your masters poll at a "just fast enough" rate. If they are event based, then that will probably work out best for the ECOM. However, if the events occur at the rate of about once a millisecond, you'll probably end up losing some packets, let alone respond fast enough.